Commitment: Know when to hold them and when to fold them


This, of course, refers to the skill that a successful poker player has in knowing when to stay in or drop out of a hand (Fredericks, 2014). This can be applied to personal relationships as well as professional ones.

Sometimes as human beings can be committed to the wrong project or relationship. In a society where everything and everyone is competing for your attention, it is hard to find someone who is committed to you.

Duke Wu of Cheng executed a minister for suggesting invading Hu. Even though, this was Cheng’s intentions. After hearing Cheng’s action, the ruler of Hu left his country defenseless to Cheng because of misplaced trust. A few weeks later, Cheng forces swept through Hu and took over the country.

Moral of the story is to know when to hold them; and know when to fold them. Just because some does a nice gesture doesn’t mean they are 100% on your team. One needs to look repetitive actions to make a final decision committing or leaving the relationship.

So, this is how I determine when to hold or fold them:  Overall long-term benefit versus needs to outweigh long-term detriment. One can take a short term lost for a long-term game. However, no one should ever take a long term lost over a temporary win. You hear saying ‘lose the battle to win the war.’ This is true when it is applied to professional and personal life.

Learning to control emotions for the long-term gain has power like no other. Just it for good!

~ Attorney Ronnie O’Brien Rice, Ph.D.

References

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